7 signs you are dating the right person

11 Feb

You feel like your partner only has one interest in life and yeah, you guessed it, it’s you. Spending time with this person seems more like a chore than it is just for fun, and you’re constantly feeling drained at the end of every meet. You can’t bear to make plans, because at the back of your mind, you’re wondering whether or not you’d still be together by then.

You don’t see yourself going on vacation with this person, or bringing them to your company christmas party, let alone to your cousin’s wedding.

If you and your partner have yet to figure this out, then it’s all on you two to decide how to go about it.

However if you already do know this fact in your relationship, then you’ve got a lot of thinking to do.

It could be that you’re embarrassed, which is already enough of a reason for you to pull the plug on the relationship.

It’s not right when every serious conversation you start gets shrugged off with ‘let’s not talk about this’ or ‘can we talk about something else.’ If there are things you can’t talk to this person about, then that’s a red flag. Admittedly, getting attention from who you’re with is great, except when there’s too much of it. You’re always thinking of other activities you could be doing and at some point, hanging out with them gets exhausting.

It’s likely this is how any future conflict with you might evolve, as well. At least at this point in my life, while they are still in school, and still very much under my influence.

Dating after divorce is tricky too, and I’ve found some things I think are good indicators of how whole a person is, and how ready they are for a healthy relationship.And of course, as a divorced, and now-single parent, I am going to do everything I can to take care of my kids needs. Maybe the kid was a brat who was completely undisciplined.Or perhaps the child was overly shy and withdrawn, folding themselves into the parent.If your dream is to travel the world and wait to settle down until your late 30s, but who you’re dating wants to live in a suburb and start raising children by the time they’re 28, then how is that relationship going to work?When you have a set of goals too far off from your partner’s, and neither of you choose to work on a compromise, then you’re just wasting each other’s time.